My 5 favourite words in English

Day 2.

“You always have a choice”

Boom! You didn’t see that one coming did you? I will be honest, my favourite words in English change constantly, depending on how I feel. My ‘five favourite words in English’ are not always sequential, sometimes they don’t go together and sometimes they don’t really cut the ‘5 word’ stipulation. I usually have more words than just five words.

However, the phrase above is one of the few that makes a regular appearance in the corridors of my brain. When I was younger I used to think the world ‘happens’ to people. I thought we were all just sailing in this wave of life, floating atop of deep waters. If you were lucky, you got to sail in the calm waters, with pit stops on beautiful islands. If you were unlucky you would be carried by the waves that head to rough waters and take you straight to the Bermuda triangle. So the concept of life, in my little head was that you go where the wind blows you, you just ride the wave.

Only when I was older did I realise that life is not pre-determined. We make choices and then live to face the consequences of the said choices. Sometimes, people make choices and then we live out the consequences for them. That confused me a bit. Until I further realised that the choices also apply to how we react to life and its script. This is when we go beyond the ‘bread with jam or bread with peanut butter choices’, beyond the ‘#teamBrazil of #teamArgentina’ kind of choices.

The truth is life happens. Bad things happen to good people. Sometimes, people find themselves in sticky situations with little or no hope for the future. During times like that it’s hard to fathom that we have ‘a choice’. As hard as it is, you always have a choice. You can choose to live a life of bitterness or you can choose to forgive. You can choose to stay strong and move on or you can choose to have a pity party for the rest of your life.(Choose forgiveness) You can choose to be happy, even in the midst of uncertainties or you can choose to be a grumpy human being. (Choose happy) When you think you don’t have a choice, look closely.YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE.


3 comments on “My 5 favourite words in English

  1. Shona Girl
    July 2, 2014

    Boom! Brilliant post, thank you for reminding me that life doesn’t just happen to us, and for doing it so thoughtfully.


  2. Sifiso Maposa
    July 2, 2014

    Thanks Connie for taking time to read the post 🙂 Glad you enjoyed it!


  3. Cynthia Chandomba
    July 4, 2014

    I enjoyed your post. Its so true, we always have a choice, but sometimes it feels easier to be chose to be grumpy when things are not going your way, but i think happiness is a better choice. Thanks for that!!


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